Well, We’re all preparing here for whatever it is we are preparing for. Hurricane, economic collapse, earthquake, civil unrest, whatever it is. As a single person, prepping has been a pretty simple concept to undertake. Know what my needs are and act on them. Simple. I want a months worth of food, I buy it. I want a new camp knife, I buy it, I make a plan, and it seems pretty simple, I act on it. It’s been remarkably simple for me to prep and learn on my own. Enter a new phase…
Recently, I have been dating a great woman. Smart, fun, has her pervierpial ‘stuff’ together, and makes me happy in every way. I love her nine year old Weimaraner. He’s awesome. Hell, he’s sleeping next to me on the couch as I write this.
It hit me this week though, that while I am somewhat prepared for many of the common situations I know I would experience, I had a conversation with my girlfriend this week about her Hurricane Sandy experience. She lives in a town near the Hudson river in NJ, and owns a 1st floor apartment. She described her experience, how she lost her car, the boat that came down the street to help rescue stranded people, etc. What I got out of that, and after spending some time at her apartment, is that she is completely unprepared for any type of disastrous situation whatsoever. I find myself now thinking about what I can do for both my girlfriend and her dog to better prepare them for a situation that may disrupt their lives again. I find it to be a bit more complicated than I had anticipated as I see some personal priorities shifting, making them more a priority, and other situations not as much a priority… To slightly complicate things, my girlfriend has an interesting diet, that lacks a lot of meats and poultry’s. I know you’ll eat just about anything when you are trying to survive, but you, (I) of course want to be sure everyone is as comfortable that they can be.
So what are some of the things going through my mind? Self defense, a Get Home Bag for her, preps (food, water, etc.) for both the dog and my girl, and of course financial considerations. Caring for another is an interesting thing. It’s been several years since I have been in a serious relationship, and my preparedness thinking is taking a shift. It’s honestly a little overwhelming and unexpected to begin thinking about. Those of you that are married with children and pets, I give kudos to. You’re way ahead of my game in your mindset of ‘family’ preparedness.
Next thoughts, full disclosure to my girlfriend about my preparedness plans. Sigh, this is something that I have been pondering. I began the discussion with one that I thought would make or break the burgeoning relationship, when we were talking about hobbies. “No, I don’t golf, I used to many years ago, but no longer do. My golf is target shooting. There’s nothing like sending some lead down range and putting some holes in a paper target.” There was a flurry of gun questions, how long, how safe, etc. Then there was the question/statement, “I want to learn how to shoot $#!t.” At that moment, I had a smile. I asked if she’s ever held a gun, fired one, or had been shown how to be safe with one. “Nope.” This is my segway into preparedness. This is my seqway into the get home bag etc. I think I can also spin the “boat rescue” into a preparedness moment as well… Full disclosure in time, I think…
Either way, this is a new path I am on in my preparedness journey. Those of you that have significant others and families you are preparing with/for, please sound off as to your thoughts and your concerns while prepping, please…
I prep for 5 people here. I think the biggest thing I learned after Irene and Sandy is that you shouldn’t just prep for what *you* think they need, but also for what *they* think they need. We’re all afraid of different things. You might be concerned for her safety, but she might worry about having enough food, for example. I discovered after Irene that one of my teens is afraid of the dark. Now I make sure they have plenty of light sources, including a small flashlight on a lanyard (which she wears every day to the bus at 6am now). My other teen was most concerned about having enough for our dogs. My youngest wanted to make sure we always had enough of his medicine in the house. They were all reasonable requests, but they wouldn’t have been at the top of my list. By taking care of their perceived needs, I made them much more comfortable with the whole concept. They were much more relaxed during Sandy than Irene, even though it was much worse for us.
jennypenny Thanks for posting, and this makes perfect sense. I’ll have to ask what is important and add that to the core basics.